Rea Frey

Rea Frey is a lover of coffee, words and sleep, though since becoming a mother, she gets too much coffee, writes endless words and thinks about uninterrupted sleep the way she would a lover lost at sea—that is to say, often. She is the author of four nonfiction books and an upcoming women’s suspense novel, THE LONELY GIRLS (St. Martin’s Press), which will be published summer 2018. When she’s not exercising, mothering, adulting, wifing, eating or writing about herself in the third person, you can find her blogging about various topics at


Best piece of parenting advice you’ve ever gotten?
Stop reading parenting books. You know exactly what to do.
Proudest parenting moment?
When my daughter, at age 4, learned to read.
Worst parenting moment?
When I was writing my novel about a woman who kidnaps a five-year-old, my daughter’s school called and said that she was absent. It was 1:00p.m. and we had dropped her off at 8:00a.m! It all turned out okay (it was their mistake), but I’ve never been more terrified in my entire life. Worst. Parenting. Moment. Ever.
Fave quote?
“Want a happy marriage? Marry a happy person.” – by some fictional character in Sarah Dunn’s novel, The Arrangement
Best thing you’ve learned from your kid?
Have a sense of humor…about everything. Become comfortable talking about poop. Never stop imagining. Curiosity just might save your life.
Something people would be surprised to learn about you?
I never wanted to become a mother. Now that I’m a mother, I can’t imagine having missed out on this absolute life-changing experience. It has, at its core, defined me.
Finish the following sentence: I can’t start the day without…
sex. Oh, wait, we’re talking about REALITY here. In that case, coffee, black. A hug from my daughter. A kiss from my husband. (A daydream about having sex with my husband, while we pack lunches and hurry to get out the door on time.) And then, more coffee.

latest posts

Pick-Up Line Confession: The Labia Wars
How to Appreciate the One You’re With: Take a Step Back
Conversations With My Daughter
The Messiness of Motherhood: Welcome to Your New Life
Dad Talk Spotlight: Alex Holguin
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